I didn't know that! Issue# 10- Expect Success 2

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Your heightened awareness and determination to change will help reach step two,
which is to acquire self-control.

Successful singers control their own destiny. They differentiate between the
things that are outside their control (such as an audition panel) and that which is
within their control (such as their perceptions). When you become responsible
for your own actions, then control is yours. Then you are free from luck, good or
bad, from any accidents that might occur, and, most importantly, from other
people. Your voice teacher, coach, partner, or colleagues do not control your
performance--you do.

Try this exercise:
Go back over an audition at which you were not successful and ponder the details of the
following sequence:

a. The event
Was the audition not in your control?

b. Your perceptions
How did you perceive your lack of success?
Others luckier than you?
Not appreciated as a singer?
Audition not within your control?

c. Your self-talk
What were you saying and/or thinking about yourself?
Not as good a singer as others?
Not as deserving as others?
Audition not within your control?

d. Your feelings
How did you feel?
Rejected? insecure? unhappy? angry? depressed?
Out of your direct control because they were within yoursubconscious?

e. Your behavior
What was your resulting behavior?
Less enthusiastic? less interested? too determined? too anxious?
all resulting in a lower performance?
Out of your direct control because it came from
within your subconscious?

Never surrender control to external forces. By changing what you can directly control you will have more success.

Alan Thomas